Out with the SHOULD…!

What is the first thought that comes to your mind when you hear the word should? Think about some of the phrases that you personally say with this word.

  • I should go to the gym
  • I should have a boyfriend
  • I should have kids by now
  • I should be skinny

I don’t know about you, but after I hear these phrases, I start to feel a sense of shame or inadequacy, because in most cases it can be follow with “but I’m not”   Who establishes the standards of our “shoulds” anyways? Family, friends, the normals of society.

Some people live their lives in a prison of fear and terrified to do what they want because they are so afraid of what people will think if they are not living like they “should” be by society’s norms.

I admit, I was there. I knew the kind of adventurous life that I wanted to live, but I was hesitant to break free from society’s norms and do what I wanted.   “What will people think of me?” I remember thinking   What would happen if I break the “normal” pattern of: high school, college, boyfriend, college graduation, job, marriage, new home, children?

Being aware of how much I actually used the word “should’ and working to eliminate  it from my vocabulary was one of the best and most freeing personal decisions I have ever made.

Yes, I may come across as “lost or confused,” but there comes a point when you truly find happiness and peace in what you’re doing that you genuinely stop caring about others opinion on what is right for your life.

Life is too short to live by other people’s standards of “should”. Dare to spread your wings, dream big and live the life you have always wanted. It’s never too late.

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  • Are you truly living the life you feel is right for you or are you living the life that others think you “should” live? 
  • What is it that you want truly want in this life? 
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Sarah - thenomadicdreamer.comOut with the SHOULD…!